Danger, Carlos Danger!

Aww, I couldn't resist that headline! #sorrynotsorry I almost considered renaming our foster kitten, 'Carlos Danger,' but the kitten has better judgment. Also, he's too smart to be a politician. But since I'm speaking about  not being able to resist one's baser intentions, how about Anthony Weiner, that super classy guy running for NYC Mayor? Weiner, who said when asked about how many inappropriate "relationships," he's had, responded:"Six to ten, I suppose-but I can't tell you absolutely what someone else is going to consider inappropriate or not." http://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/anthony-weiner-details-how-many-women-hes-had-online-relationships-with/2013/07/25/c185ad5a-f572-11e2-9434-60440856fadf_story.html

I cannot make this sh*t up.That comment made me chortle bitterly... and then depressed the hell out of me. Um, I'm going to go ahead and suggest that Mr. Weiner can exactly tell us what someone else is going to consider inappropriate, because, let's be frank, he knows exactly what he's doing when he gets involved in one of these "relationships." (Not to mention:the idea that anyone would use the term "relationship" to describe these tawdry online encounters speaks volumes about how lonely we are as a society, and, more significantly, how lonely Mr. Weiner must be with himself. Sexting is not a relationship!) When Anthony Weiner is flirting with yet another woman online, shortly after starting his public mea culpa campaign in People magazine,knowing that he's going to make a run for public office...come on, people! That punk knows exactly how inappropriate and shady he's being. And he relishes it.

Listen, I dislike Weiner because he's a liar, and incompetent, and never did anything for this city even before he first got caught. He was known for press conferences and self-aggrandizing behavior and being a bully...all of these being other sides, obviously, of his tremendous self-loathing. The only person Weiner ever served--and is still serving, I'd argue--is himself. And, I suggest, he's serving himself by deliberately sabotaging himself. Does that sound like gibberish to you? Listen, if you hate yourself, you'll do whatever it takes to destroy yourself.

So when Weiner says he has "no idea" what other people might consider inappropriate, I'd argue that not only does he know--in excruciating detail, by the way--but he must enjoy, in one aspect or another, seeing his private life, his family, his image humiliated so publicly. Inappropriate is as inappropriate does. What a shame. NYC deserves more. (Except for New Yorkers who perform live music on the subway. They deserve the death penalty. Don't even get me started.)

The real inappropriate behavior here, of course, is that Weiner apparently can't give the same commitment to
 figuring himself out, to getting the real, long-term help he so obviously needs, as he is to destroying himself. He's really committed to his pain. Unfortunately, I'm sure they'll continue to be very unhappy together.

If you're interested in figuring out how to stop sabotaging yourself, and instead allow yourself to achieve the  professional success you've always craved, email me @carlotazee@gmail.com, and like my Facebook page, "Carlotaworldwide Creativity Yenta," for a free consultation!

Besos,
C.

On the sunny side of the street

I did a quick session this am with an old friend/client--so old that she can call me bossy, and I just sort of chuckle. So old that I remember hanging out with her when we were in 3rd grade, giggling and reading back issues of People magazine and being stupid...--and the best part of helping her, was getting to re-experience her sunny, upbeat, optimism.
Did that make some of you choke on your bile? I don't blame you. I do adore snotty humor and love me some snark, there's a reason why The Onion makes me chortle out loud on the subway, but I also have tremendous respect for people who can truly see the glass (of life) as half-full. (Oh, that sounded like a bad 1990s emo girl group lyric...)
My friend is in the process of receiving her master's degree, she has three (gorgeous) kids, her husband is also getting his bachelor's...but. But, in the mean time, she needs a job and is probably going to have to work at Home Depot. Her attitude? "Oh, well, there's a lot of contractors who go to Home Depot, so I'll just be helpful and maybe one of them will need an extra hand."
Maybe it's just because I'm a naturally cranky person--I threw phones at people in TV news because they deserved it not because I wanted to...though, okay, I also really wanted to. Ha!--but I was really impressed by her joyful spirit. Because, dear Reader: she's right. She gets it. She understands that networking is a constant ebb and flow, that you never know where you'll meet someone who can change your life...so why not meet them as you help them choose the perfect faucet? And why not allow yourself to think that you can change your life, instead of luxuriating in misery?
What my friend really gets is that attitude is everything. I don't know about you, but given the horrible state of customer "service" nowadays, I've been known to praise people to their managers for being (basically) competent. When the chick at the Gap, for example, takes the time to do her job, and is even pleasant, I want to treat her to a pedicure.
What I'm trying to say is: my friend will be fine. No, she'll be great: she's got the right attitude and she sees that opportunities are everywhere...