Tuesday, January 8, 2013
31Ways2GetItStarted™!: January 8, 2013
Day 8: Come in Good Faith
If you've been enjoying/tolerating this blog for any length of time, you know that I did indeed go to law school, for all of the wrong reasons(...hmm, doesn't that sound like a horrible country-western song? If some ballad along those lines wins next year's Country Music Awards, I'll 1) laugh till I choke and, 2) sue, sue, sue dammit!). But luckily I have an excellent way of dealing with law school: since graduating in 2007, I've worked diligently to forget as much as possible of what I *cough cough* "learned." And yet...
And yet, I recently found myself explaining the concept of "eminent domain" to a friend and I was 1) amazed I had remembered anything, 2) outraged with my brain. This is the same brain which has to call all the boys I date "baby," since I can't remember their stupid names after like 5 minutes...but some useless factoid of legal "knowledge" is lodged in my cranium? Irritating. (Right now my brain is humming lyrics to Duran Duran's "Hungry Like the Wolf" and happy.)
But one aspect of legal "wisdom," I do believe in, boys and girls, is the concept of coming in "good faith." You don't go to court to play games, or make a stand, or send a message, because that's what Twitter and melodramatic movies are for. You go to court because you have a serious legal issue, or you know, you're Lindsay Hohan and it's Tuesday...ha! (I'm here all week; tip your servers and try the lamb.)
My point being...if you're trying to make serious changes in your life, big or small (and you cannot have big changes without starting small, sorry.), you absolutely must approach those changes and how you facilitate them in good faith. I frequently have prospective clients who, after getting super excited for my strategies, freak out and start picking holes in everything and making problems. They refuse to do anything because they already can tell nothings going to work. Instead, they fight me on every point. Or rather, they would fight me on every point...but I have no time for haters. Boring people are boring and I have a lot to get accomplished today.
That to me is the antithesis of good faith: if you're determined to fail, and to tell me in full detail why my ideas won't work--without even trying one, for f**k's sake-- and why you're doomed to fail...well, fine! I guess you are a failure, thanks for making it easier on the rest of us. I'm not, thank Yahweh for all involved, your mom. I'm not here to convince you to make the changes that you yourself are desperate to make. Sorry, but I'm going to treat you like an adult. Irritating, but true. If I wanted kids, I'd be married. So you're going to have to give me and yourself 100 f**king percent. You're going to have to come to me in good faith and say, "I'm going to help you to help me. I'm going to invest in your ideas and myself." Then, like some bad 1980s buddy-cop film...it's on!
I'd love to hear your rants/kvetches/praise/shout-outs (...oh yes, I did!) in the comments section. Or, if you're interested in getting some help with that good faith, email me @firstname.lastname@example.org.